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Vladimir-
The Effect of a Father in a Boy’s Day
He
watched the Frisbee ripping through the stifling August air.
It was lunch time, but the excitement of fencing with balloon
helmets and swords and weaving macramé bracelets softened
the familiar sensation of hunger. Vladimir, ten years old,
couldn’t take his eyes off the man with the Frisbee.
At last it was offered to Vladimir. He found himself fumbling,
nervous. After all, this was a grown man, a father-type man,
tossing the Frisbee, and Vladimir was an orphan.
He
hesitated, then entered the game with all his heart. His first
toss went wild; he shrugged his shoulders thinking he’d
lost his chance and moved to step out of the game. But the
man, the father-type man, pulled him back and took the time
to show him the Frisbee toss technique. Vladimir’s eyes
softened. This was confusing. A second chance, gentle instruction
– these were not part of his expectation. He continued
to fumble. Instruction continued. Now another child, an American
from the visiting group, stepped in and took the man’s
place in the game. Vladimir found the man at his shoulder
becoming his own personal coach. In five minutes Vladimir
was ahead of the game, but his heart was full of something
new. His eyes kept looking for the father-type man, tracking
his movements through the throng of children, following his
voice. Vladimir’s heart learned the effect of a father’s
touch upon the tender life of a boy and he would never forget
it.
This
was no ordinary orphanage; not really an orphanage at all.
This was a “holding place” that was becoming an
orphanage – a common happening in the desolation of
Ukraine’s “social services.” Street children
are often brought here and left until a place in an orphanage
could be found. Children picked up for petty crime –
breaking and entering or stealing food – are here waiting
for court. Also, very young gypsy children whose parents would
not release them to be listed for adoption because they intended
to come back for them when they would be old enough to beg
on the streets. And Vladimir.
The
bright-eyed, eager boy called Vladimir was left at Zhmerinka
for a different reason. The director told the story with a
tone of indignation. Vladimir was brought here by a mother
whose second husband made it incovenient for Vladimir to remain
in the family. The mother told Vladimir he was going to summer
camp and left him at Zhmerinka after first signing papers
to release him to the state. “He is uncontrollable,”
she told the director. With tears in her eyes, the director
said, “He is only a boy.” Such is the cultural
effect of godlessness in government.
The
children went in to the steamy building that serves as the
community kindergarten except for the two rooms given to caring
for the transient orphans. We spoke our good-byes, passed
out the things we had brought, and walked out of the building.
As we turned the corner to the street, voices above were shouting
“Dasvedanya!” We watched the faces, so familiar
now after a week on the mission to Vinnitsa orphanages. The
faces hold wonder – the wonder of friendship, gratefulness,
hope, but something else – “You’re leaving
us too.” But Vladimir’s eyes were on the father-type
man, and as we turned the other corner, he blew a kiss.
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